Sue Goldswain and John Boland Workshop
Sponsored by Collaborative Divorce Vancouver Society
Friday, May 27, 2016
Peggy Gunn Woodland Hall
5241 Oak Street
Vancouver, British Columbia
9:00 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. (registration at 8:30 a.m.)
From Infatuation to Divorce: Understanding Stages and Unconscious Patterns in Relationships
Ever wonder how the couple in your Collaborative meetings went from romantic love to so much conflict? During this workshop we will explore the predictable stages of relationship from infatuation to irreconcilable conflict and divorce. Using Imago Relationship Theory we will begin to make sense of this transition and illustrate the unconscious patterns at play that not only our clients go through but also ourselves. By normalizing both infatuation and relationship conflict we will bring clarity to the unconscious patterns all of us go through in long-term relationships. As professionals, by consciously understanding these patterns, we can develop more empathy for all of our clients and gain insights into our own reactions and projections. This workshop was presented at the IACP Forum in Vancouver last year. In this workshop, participants will:
- Gain insight into the stages of relationship and how these stages impact themselves and their clients
- Begin to understand Imago Relationship Theory, and how to shift unconscious relationship interactions to more intentional interactions
- Recognize that long-term relationship conflict has components that are rooted in the couple’s childhood experiences
- Briefly examine their own relationship histories and hopefully gain new awareness into their relationship patterns
- Have more empathy and understanding for the struggles of both their clients and their clients’ ex-partners
- Come to understand the typical dynamics of couples, including how they often have similar yearnings but opposite defensive patterns
- Be challenged to recognize that long term intimate relationships are where we have an opportunity to finally grow up and behave in more mature loving ways.
John Boland has been a psychotherapist for over 35 years, who now specializies in relationship therapy and divorce coaching. Dr. Sue Goldswain is a registered psychologist who has been an individual and couples therapist for 30 years.
Both Sue and John are advanced clinicians in Imago Relationship Therapy, fully accredited with Imago International, and certified Imago Workshop Presenters. As a married couple they are committed to helping others explore their relationships patterns for increased connection and commitment, as well as using Imago theory and practice in their own partnership to deal with their inevitable challenges.